tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20006571.post2100926488169804205..comments2024-03-27T11:29:55.430+09:00Comments on Living La Vida Loca In Japan: June 13, 2014Helenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00476943539943172099noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20006571.post-65350600728609783322014-06-14T10:15:18.864+09:002014-06-14T10:15:18.864+09:00Thanks for your comments.
Sadly, my husband is ...Thanks for your comments. <br /><br />Sadly, my husband is not really known for his introspection or patience, but I appreciate a different perspective. Helenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00476943539943172099noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20006571.post-51363487432794997502014-06-14T05:07:57.920+09:002014-06-14T05:07:57.920+09:00Hey! You don't know me, but I stop in once in ...Hey! You don't know me, but I stop in once in a while to read your blog. So thanks for taking the time to write.<br /><br />It's been quite a while this time, and I did not remember you having such issues with your husband; sorry to see that. The point of my comment, though, is that he reminds me (in an exaggerated way) of how I used to be with my ex-fiancee. It's not all, but certainly part, of the reason the "ex" part is there.<br /><br />It may not be the same for him, but in my case, I was taking everything way too seriously, making poor (and uninformed, and selfish) decisions, and just generally not taking into account what she -- or anyone else, really -- might want or need.<br /><br />There's no one thing that really "cured" me (which I'd say I have been, and I think my girlfriend would agree), but I will definitely say the biggest contributor has been learning to relax. Not in the sense of doing fewer things or slacking off, but by making a concerted effort to step back, look at the things I do, believe, and think, and trying to be as objective and dispassionate about them as possible. "Take a deep breath" is the most valuable advice I've ever heard, and it's painful to think I only started taking it in the last few years. Now I do so regularly, and whole-heartedly recommend it.<br /><br />That's not always possible, but the more you try to do it, the easier and more natural (not to mention automatic) it becomes. I think it improves the way you look at and interact with other people, if only because you get used to taking a moment to consider the things you say before you say them.<br /><br />Anyway, I hope things get better for you and your husband! Perhaps if he can learn to be a bit more introspective and patient, he'll be happier and more pleasant to be around. Just a thought. :)phuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11757114377861113530noreply@blogger.com