November 10, 2013

Sunday - Rainy then clearing

A bad day.

I got up this morning because my husband was making a huge noise in the kitchen again.  I went back to bed with the door closed.  I woke and got up again.  F didn't say anything to me, so after a while I went back to the bedroom with my newspaper and glasses.  I read the paper, tried to nap again, but couldn't.  I got up and got dressed, went back to my computer. 

For some reason we just ignored each other all day. F made himself some ramen and I was livid.  Not once did he ask if I needed/wanted any food, nor did he get dressed.  He was still in his pyjamas.   Around 4:30 I reminded him that he had an appointment soon, so he dressed and left.  He didn't even ask if I wanted to go out too! 

While he was out I had a couple of slices of toast and cheese.  He came back, again with the silent treatment.  I had enough, so I put socks on, grabbed my purse and went out to eat. It wasn't great, but it was okay.  I hadn't brought a book or anything interesting with me, so I just went home when I finished.

F had locked the door so I had to ring the bell.  Then, he had the TV on so loud that it hurt my ears.  I grabbed a magazine and went to the bedroom.  To do him credit, he came to talk to me but we both got upset and yelled at each other.  He asked if I needed food, but I didn't.  He went out for a while.  

We never really talked much to each other for the rest of the night. It was annoying.  We hadn't made many plans for the day, but it was a wasted day nonetheless.  

And, to make things even better, I shifted my weight the wrong way on my chair and hurt my hip again.  Argh!  

Tomorrow I'm not sure what I'm going to do.  I will probably have to go out for lunch but after that, will I stay out or come back home?  I'm not sure.  Tune in tomorrow and find out what I get up to.  Night.

1 comment:

Orchid64 said...

It sounds like he does certain things on purpose in order to start a fight with you - the banging in the kitchen, locking the door, not speaking with you, etc.

I don't know him, but it seems like he might be upset about something and doesn't tell you what it is and then just acts out on his feelings rather than talks about them. When he does these things, do you ever ask him if there's something wrong that he wants to talk about? I'm guessing you have and it hasn't been helpful. I'm not even thinking it's you he has an issue with, but rather that he might be in physical pain or have an issue at work and just acts out in frustration or anger.