December 22, 2012


Saturday - Clear but cloudy, finally rainy

A pretty bad day.

I got up early for me on a Saturday, took a shower and then dressed.  F took me to the doctor’s office again, but it was horrible as usual.  He can’t get over the whole “I must be there by 9 am” mentality and as a result is rude and nasty to me…when he bothers talking to me at all. I usually get the silent treatment.  Today, when they called us in to go to the doctor, F went first, and was taking his shirt off when I walked in.  I walked out again and told him he could go first.  The doctor didn’t even poke me today, just said that I looked better and asked if I felt better.  I do, so he told me I’m cured and I don’t have to go back. Hurray for that at least. 

We came home again and after a few minutes on my computer I went to take a nap.  I was exhausted.  I find dealing with F when he’s in A MOOD so draining.   I got up around 1:00 pm and after I got up, F went to bed.  What the hell?  I told him he couldn’t sleep now, he had to take me for lunch and then to work.  He told me there was bread for lunch.  I told him that wasn’t enough for me, and he didn’t say anything.  He refused to get up to even take me to work, and wouldn’t agree to pick me up after work either.  

So, I walked to work. I went via the grocery store for some food for lunch. It wasn’t a difficult walk today, it wasn’t cold, but I have foot problems and I knew that after walking so far my feet would be very painful.  I got to work, had my lunch, did some laundry, set up for my lesson, and then when my student came, taught her.  

After class I read a book, I took down all of the Christmas decorations and put them away, and I finished my paperwork.  I also stamped my student’s nengajo with my school’s stamp.  At 8:30, I phoned F to see if he’d come and get me. I had a couple of heavy things to carry.  My student had given me a box of goodies for a year end present, but it was heavy.  There was no answer. I left a message and said I was leaving in 10 minutes.  No call back.

I walked home in the rain.  I didn’t bring my heavy stuff, and I didn’t have an umbrella.  The good thing about the rain was it had washed away a lot of the snow so walking home was easy. 

I got home and F was still in bed.  I closed the door to the bedroom and got on with my evening.  I was going to make dinner, when someone appeared out of the room.  He did speak to me, but I’m so angry with him that I could only say a few words to him.  He did find my cellphone message and had the good grace to apologise for missing it before.  He went back to bed finally.  

I had a good time watching my TV shows and typing my column for the Journal. 

I’m not sure what I’ll get up to tomorrow.  I still haven’t got my husband a Christmas present and I don’t feel like he deserves one at the moment either.  Anyone know where I can get a big lump of coal?   I have to run.  Night.

2 comments:

Jackie said...

Even though I don't know you personally I have been reading your blog for past few months.
I'm sorry you are having such a hard time with your husband right now.
I don't know how to say this without sounding like a know it all and please feel free to just dump this comment.
Please try and find out what is upsetting your husband and fix your relationship as soon as possible.
My husband died suddenly on Monday and I would give anything to have one more day with him, even fighting.
Please take care

Helen said...

Hi and thank you for your comments. My husband has a lot of pain from an old injury, yesterday it was acting up a lot. He didn't tell me that was the problem though...I'm expected to just "know".

Things have been much better today. We spent most of the day together at the mall and had a nice time together.

I'm sorry to hear about your loss. Thank you for reaching out when you are having such a hard time. Thinking good thoughts for you....